Cast of Characters

These are the Cast of Characters in our life in the lifestyle. We really have no intention of listing individuals who we have had one time interactions with. Rather this is a place to quickly understand who is who in regards to those individuals that frequently or most likely will frequently appear in our experiences in the lifestyle. Please note we will NOT be using anyone’s full name but rather just initials for the time being. In the future we may designate certain individuals by full names, but those names will be changed to protect their identity.

The Stars

J (Girlfriend)
J (Boyfriend)

Single Men

F: We met F at one of the Hot Wives of NYC Parties during the Summer of 2009. He is an extremely nice guy who we’ve come to be friends with since meeting him.

Hosts

S: Hosts Club Encounters at Cherry Bombs
A&M: Hosts Club Possibilities at Show World
J&G: Hosts Long Island Swingers Group
P&C: Hosts Hot Wives of NYC

Club Encounters Gets an Upgrade

Since we enjoy going to Club Encounters we decided to share this update we received via E-mail about the club:

"Encounters . . . will be undergoing major renovations for your enjoyment. We will be adding bedrooms, a permanent buffet station, a bigger coat check area, new HUGE TV's, modern decor and many tables. We will be closed until further notice. Please CHECK BACK as we will be opening soon!

You asked, we listened! Watch out for our Grand Re-launch party March 13th! The re-launch event will be COUPLES ONLY. There will be food, great music, KING QUEEN and FULL BEDS, mixers, a DJ, and a whole NEW ENCOUNTERS!"

One of our biggest issue with Encounters is that they do not have "private" rooms.  Their play rooms only have curtains and if you want complete privacy or you are playing with someone or a couple who is shy, then it makes things difficult when people keep opening up the curtains to peer in.  We don't know what they mean by "adding bedrooms" but we really hope they add one or two with a real door.  Also, having a couples only day would be exciting given the size of the venue :-)

Hopefully Single Guys nights still remain free for Couples or they are going to have the same issue as Club Possibilities.

MFM Report: C (Feb 8, 2010)

Roberto’s was having a Super Bowl party at Club Encounters this past Sunday. We haven’t been to one of their parties and we’ve heard they are pretty good so we decided to give it a try. We met C within about fifteen minutes of arriving. He came over to us and introduced himself without any hesitation. We ended up having a very enjoyable threesome together. Here are our His & Her experiences:

Her: When we arrived at Club Encounters there wasn’t much going on yet, so we headed to play area and sat in our usual spot on one of the couches. Within a few minutes C came in and asked if he could take a seat near us. We said of course and we talked for awhile about the Lifestyle and our experiences. We found out that this was his first time ever going to a Lifestyle event or anything related to swinging. He was a complete newbie, but was very sweet and seemed like a really down to earth genuine person. We gave him a lot of advice and he seemed to really appreciate us answering all his questions. After about 20 minutes of chatting we decided that we wanted to go checkout the rest of the party to see who else had shown up.

We ended up running into a guy that I had given a hand job to a few months ago. He looked extremely pleased to see us again. We spent a little time hanging out with him, but I wasn’t really feeling it so we decided to leave him and go back into the play area and maybe have a little fun of our own if nothing else was going on. A crowd started to form around us as we made out and showed some skin. To our surprise C came over to us and asked if he could sit next to me. I said sure, and then my boyfriend and I continued where we left off. Then C asked if he could touch me. I was really surprised by this since he had not done anything like this before and I said yes. He really took our advice that we give to single guys and applied it instantly. It was a turn on because we really do not run into that many single guys that are confident and just go for what they want. At this point C got a little closer and hands began to wander under clothes. C and I made out a little and I was feeling a little adventurous so I decided to take out his cock and jerk him off a little while the crowd of people watched us. I can’t even imagine what was going on in C’s mind. You should have seen his face when I touched his cock over his pants for the first time. He was in complete shock, but in a good way.

After a few minutes of putting on a little show for everyone I decided it was time to head into a room with just C and my boyfriend. We all stripped down and I started to kiss C and sucked his cock a little and then he went down on me while I gave my boyfriend a blow job. After that I gave C a blowjob while my boyfriend fucked me from behind. Then we switched and I had C fuck me from behind while I gave my boyfriend a blowjob. After C came he seemed like he didn’t know what he should do. My boyfriend started to fuck me missionary position and I think C felt awkward so he said he was going to go to the restroom. He ended up never coming back and had left the party. I think he had an awesome experience and we also enjoyed ourselves. He probably just left because he had never done anything like that before and didn’t know what he was supposed to do. I had a great time with my boyfriend and C. Hopefully if we run into him again he won’t feel too embarrassed about just leaving after.

His: The party began at 5 p.m. but we decided to get there for 6. We didn’t want to be the first ones there but we also wanted to get there before it started filling up so we could mingle and flirt with those we found interesting. We went to the juice bar and got ourselves a couple of drinks and then headed to the play area to hang out. C came over to us as soon as he saw us and introduced himself. This in and of itself made him very appealing since most guys are too shy to approach us.

We had a good conversation for about fifteen minutes and then went to replenish our drinks. At that point we ran into a Single Guy that we played with in the past and chatted with him for awhile and then my Girlfriend told me she wanted to head back to the play area with me to make out. While making out in the play area C came over and sat down next to us. He asked if he could rub my Girlfriend and she eagerly said yes. I took my Girlfriend’s top down and she undid his pants and stroked his hard cock. She then invited him into one of the private rooms for us to play.

She took off C’s clothes and began sucking his cock. He then asked her to stop so he wouldn’t cum and my Girlfriend laid down on her back and while he ate her out she sucked my cock. After a few minutes she positioned herself to be fucked by me doggy style while she began sucking on C’s cock again. At this time someone opened up to the curtain to the play room we were in (the rooms at Encounters do not have doors but rather only curtains, which can get a bit annoying when people keep opening it to watch – if it is closed it is closed for a reason – duh) and asked, “Do you mind if we join in.” I responded, “Yes we do mind and close the curtain.” Seriously? We don’t even know who you are or who this “we” is that you speak of, and you think you can come join us. I don’t understand why idiots will see a girl enjoying two guys and automatically think that she has no standards and will screw anything that moves. Anyway, back to me fucking my girlfriend doggy style while she sucked on C’s cock - this was simply an awesome sight and was a lot of fun to watch. Then we switched and C fucked her doggy style while my Girlfriend went down on me until C came. My girlfriend continued to suck my cock for awhile and C fingered her a little but then put his clothes on and said he had to use the bathroom and would be back. I then fucked my Girlfriend missionary position until I too came. When we left the play area we noticed that C was nowhere to be found. I think he wasn’t sure what was appropriate to do after our little fun and felt awkward so he left. Which is a shame because we wanted to give him our contact information for possible future fun :-(

MFMF Report: J & C (Feb 7, 2010)

We went to a Couple’s Only Dinner Party on Saturday night. It was the third time we went to this party. We always have a wonderful time at them and the hosts are simply two of the most wonderful people we’ve met in the Lifestyle. The party begins with a cocktail hour (or two) where the guests (normally about a dozen couples) mingle and get to know each other. Then a fantastic dinner is served. After dinner is served guests continue to mingle as the play area is prepared and once it is ready couples begin to trickle into the play area to enjoy themselves. We met J & C at the last Dinner Party but had not spent much time getting to know them. On Saturday night we all got better acquainted ;-) Here are our His & Her experiences:

Her: I am very happy that we got to know J & C at this party. They are both very fun, interesting and attractive. I felt that we all had great chemistry and I really enjoyed getting to know them better as the night went on. They were the first couple to arrive and we were the second so we had a little alone time in the beginning of the night to chat before the other couples started to arrive. I knew early on that they were the couple we were most likely to play with even though there were other attractive couples there I felt we had the most chemistry with J & C.

After dinner we spent a lot of time talking to with J & C and by the time the play area was ready we knew we wanted to play with them. We proceeded to the basement where there are four beds set up. We chose the bed furthest away from the other beds to make sure we would have the most privacy. The four of us tried to get comfortable on the bed and then C and I began to kiss and touch each other while the guys watched us. We were already naked because that is one of the rules when entering the play area. Then we started to swap partners. At one point J was eating me out while my boyfriend was eating out C. C and I were lying next to each other making out and touching each other. This is one of the best parts for me because we were all involved together.

After C and I came we went back to playing with our own partners for a little while and then switched again. I love to watch my boyfriend have sex and seeing him have fun. It really turned me on to see him watching me have sex with J. After we had sex with each other’s partner we went back to our own partners before finishing up. We had a lot of fun with J & C and we can’t wait to go to the next party.

His: We arrived around 9:15. J & C were already there and we were the second couple to arrive. This gave us a wonderful opportunity to get to know J & C better. They are both Latin, attractive, and very friendly. I felt we clicked right away and the chemistry was great. At some point in the evening, after dinner we all went to the play area.

We all took off our clothes and got on the bed. My Girlfriend began making out with C with me next to my Girlfriend and J next to his wife, C. J then began to make out with my Girlfriend and me with C. At this point there were a lot of bodies on the bed so it was a bit hard to navigate, but I managed to find room to go down on C. It took awhile for her to cum, but that was most likely do to my very weird body positioning due to the other bodies on the bed which was also distracting me. After she came my Girlfriend began to give me a blowjob while C went down on her Husband. I was actually having a bit of an issue getting a hard on at this point. I have no idea why this was the case so I just decided to head to the bathroom for a quick time out. I took a leak and bam, about a minute later I had a hard on – guess I had a full bladder and didn’t even realize it. When I returned my Girlfriend and C were making out and I came and joined them and then began having sex with C while my Girlfriend had sex with J.

In the end it was a very enjoyable experience. Sometimes when you go to parties like this and there are quite a few attractive couples it can be difficult to decide which couple(s) you want to focus your energy on. I definitely feel that we made the right choice with J & C :-)

MFM Report: A (Feb 6, 2010)

A responded to our Craig’s List AD about two and a half weeks ago. We exchanged e-mails back and forth during the period between that first e-mail and last night, culminating in A deciding to come meet us at Club Encounters on Friday night. We had a very wonderful experience with A and we were very happy that he decided to come meet us and let our Female half take thorough advantage of him. Below are our individual thoughts on the experience:

Her: When we arrived at Club Encounters it was pretty empty. We hung out in the playroom and watched a female half of a couple give her male half a blow job. We then proceeded to the couple only area wondering if any of the single guys that said they wanted to meet us there would actually show. We never expect that the single guys that say they are coming to meet us will actually show up. We were happily surprised when A came into the club. He found us sitting in the couple only area and came over to introduce himself. My first impression of A was very good. He came right over to us without hesitation and was very friendly and good looking. I was also impressed by the way he dressed. Most single guys we see in the club wear regular street clothes and that just does not do it for me.

We talked with A for awhile and we got to know him better. We had very good conversation and I think we all felt comfortable with each other. A is very easy to talk to and after talking to A for a little while I was ready to get to know him better ;-) I went to the restroom and when I came I sat very close to him and started to touch his leg. I said I wanted to go into the play area and of course he did not object. We went into one of the rooms and A and I started kissing while my boyfriend was sitting next to us watching. Then I had A take off his clothes and he took off my dress. I liked that he was the one to take off my clothes. Then I started to suck his cock which was a lot of fun. Then he said he wanted to go down on me. He went down on me and finger fucked me for awhile. I really like how he fingered me and was getting super turned on. While A was eating me out and fingering me I kissed my boyfriend and enjoyed having him watch everything. Then I wanted to pleasure A and had him lay on his back. I went on top of him and was teasing him a little by rubbing his cock against my pussy and making out. I switched to a doggy style position and continued to rub his cock against my pussy while giving A and my boyfriend a nice view of my ass and pussy. After a few minutes I got so turned on that I just wanted A to fuck me. We fucked in a few different position and it felt really good. A was able to last for a very long time. I loved having my boyfriend watch us, it was such a turn on to put a show on for him.

By the time A was finished fucking me he was soaking wet and I was thoroughly pleasured. Playing with A was a great experience and we definitely would want to play with him again.

Him: We arrived a little later than expected – around 10:15. The place was mostly dead at that time so we took a seat in the play area and relaxed for awhile seeing if anyone interesting came along. We were watching a couple play right next to us. The female was sucking the male’s cock. At some point the male’s leg began rubbing against my leg. I don’t know if it was intentional or not, but I decided to take a time out from watching them play and we went to the Couples Only area. Soon after we saw A. It looked like he was about to walk out the door and then he noticed us and came over.

He was dressed nice, wearing dark pants and a dress shirt and he was extremely friendly and had a great smile. I didn’t get any negative vibes from him, which is always a very good sign. He sat next to my girlfriend and we chatted for about fifteen or so minutes at which point my girlfriend asked him if he wanted to join us in one of the play rooms.

I decided that I just wanted to watch my girlfriend get pleasured tonight instead of participating.

My girlfriend undid A’s pants and began sucking on his already hard cock. A then took off her dress and they began making out. He then laid her back and began fingering her and eating her out. It was obvious from my girlfriend’s moans that he was doing a fantastic job fingering her. My girlfriend then applied some lube to both her pussy and his cock and climbed on top of him to make out with him. She began playing with his hard cock, teasing it against her pussy. When she couldn’t take it anymore and wanted to be fucked, she had him put on a condom and then mounted him shoving his hard cock inside of her. They then moved into missionary and then doggy and then back to missionary, all the while my girlfriend moaning in joy and having a smile on her face. When they finished about fifteen or so minutes later he was drenched head to toe and she was thoroughly fucked ;-)

Ask Us Anything: Which is Hotter?

To both, which is hotter? Being watched by a member of the cpl with a total stranger, or being watched by total strangers but with the cpl playing together....

Her: I think being watched while playing with my boyfriend is hot and really turns me on. I like watching the other guys looking at us and we know that they wish they were in my boyfriend’s place as we are playing in front of them. But I would have to say that having my boyfriend watch me seduce and play with another guy is much hotter. Having my boyfriend watch me play with another guy is really kinky and turns us both on a lot. When I am with a single guy I get to be super flirty and I know I am in complete control of the situation. I like the thought of my boyfriend being there with me and I know that when we get home we are going talk about it and have some crazy hot sex together. I like that there is no jealously when I play with other guys and we can just have fun and explore new things. Just this past weekend I was just getting a massage from a single guy and we danced a bit while my boyfriend watched us from the bar and it just made me feel really turned on when I saw my boyfriend enjoying the sight. We haven’t played with another guy where my boyfriend is completely just watching us and does not play at all, but it is something that we really want to do and I am looking forward to the experience.

Him: I really enjoy watching my girlfriend getting pleasured, whether it is by another man or by a woman. Combine that with me getting pleasured at the same time and I have to concentrate extremely hard not to cum in a matter of minutes. It is sometimes a lot of fun to just play with ourselves while others watch, but for me there is just no comparison. I definitely think watching my girlfriend being pleasured by a total stranger or her watching me being pleasured is way hotter than just the two of us putting on a show.

We are answering questions in the order in which they are asked.  Combine that with the fact that we are not currently planning on making more than one entry a day, it may take several days or so for us to answer your question.  Please be patient :-)

Idiot of the Month (January 2010)

We come into contact with many different people both online and in person by partaking in this exciting lifestyle. As a result we have had some not so wonderful interactions with certain individuals that we end up calling idiots when all is said and done. We felt that it would be interesting to share with you some of those experiences and hope that some of those reading these posts may learn from the mistakes of others if they themselves are prone to the same follies.

January’s Idiot: Mike via Craig’s List

On January 21st we posted an Ad on Craig’s List seeking someone who owned a “fucking machine” (picture can be found in the ad) for our female half to use. We received several responses but because of logistical reasons or other factors they weren’t viable except for one. Below you will find our exact e-mail exchanges between Mike (hotmuscles2006@yahoo.com). We post his e-mail address so if anyone receives a response from him via Craig’s List they know they can just delete the e-mail. We have posted in Red our thoughts as the interaction develops:

Our Craig’s List Ad:

Female Half of Couple Would Like to Try a Fucking Machine – Age 26 – Nassau County, Long Island

Do you have a fucking machine? If so we are an attractive couple in our mid-twenties whose female half would love to try it out. You can watch of course :-) Contact us if you can make this possible. If you would like to learn a bit more about us before contacting us you can visit us at our blog at nyswingers (dot) net :-)

E-mail Exchange:

The following dialogue ran from January 22nd to today, January 28th.

Mike: Hello. I'm 33yo good looking muscular Latin-Italian bi male. I have a FUCKZALL. You can probably find out about it online, It's a sawzall tool with a attachment to connect a dildo onto it, it's insane. I don't get much chance to use it but would love to try it on you if you are up for it. I would just enjoy using it on someone nothing else has to happen unless you want to. [We are actually very pleased with this message.  We aren't sure why he stated his sexual orientation since it is irrelevant, we just want to have our female half play with the toy and weren't looking for a MFM encounter.  We looked up the type of toy it was and it seemed pretty interesting.  We also didn't mind that he wanted to try it on our female half.]

Us: What kind of dildos does it take? (Brand, Type, etc.) and where are you located? (Town)

Mike: It's the kind that has a hole about the size of a quarter thru it, then the metal part that is the attachment to the sawzall goes inside thru it about 3 -4 inches. I have to dildos that go onto it one thick one a little thinner both about 7". The brand dildo that has the empty inside is doc Johnson. I always used a condom on them and if I were to use it with you I would also put a condom on it. I'm in SW Nassau. [We would never use a toy someone else has already used-even if they claim they always used condoms on it-that is why we were asking what kind of dildo's it takes.  We were planning on buying several sizes that the machine would take and attach them to the machine if this little adventure ever took place]

Us: Are you able to host? [We don't host single guys at our place - though we would single females and couples]

Mike: Yes

Us: Are you available on Friday?

Mike: Yes

Us: Is there a bar by you that you would like to meet at to see if we all feel comfortable with each other before heading back to your place to play with the toy? [We don't want to go straight to someone's house that we don't know because it will make it more uncomfortable and awkward if we want to eject from the situation]

Mike: Yes, there are a few different bars around me. Just tell me what night you want to meet up. Your both going to show up together right? [We have no clue why he is asking us this - of course we would both be showing up together - only thing we can think of is that he is scared there really is no female]

Us: We can meet up this Friday at 9 p.m. if that works for you and yes we would both be showing up together :-)
Mike: Thats perfect.

Us: Okay great :-) Can you send us the name and address of the bar that we will be meeting at and also a picture of you so we can recognize you and your cell phone number so we can contact you in case we are running late, get lost, etc. Our cell number is [Number Removed For Privacy]

Mike: Sonny O's 269 West Merrick rd, Valley Stream. You can't miss it it's on a main road. I'll be wearing a tan muscle shirt and jeans. I don't send out pictures. I get emails directly to my phone instantly so I rather not give out my number and just contact thru email. I'll be there shooting pool so it doesn't matter if you run a little late. [This is when we knew we had an issue.  This is a guy who is using Craig's List to meet females and couples and claims he does NOT send out pictures?  We suppose he has never had any success using Craig's List then if that is the case.  Also, not giving out the phone number is an even bigger no no.  We were almost ready to say forget it right then and there but decided to give it one more shot.]

Us: We can understand why you may not want a picture floating around, even if it is g-rated, but we would still like a contact number so we can get in touch with you. If you want to voice verify just call our number from a restricted number and then give us your cell number - but it shouldn't be too much to give it to two people you will potentially be inviting into your home, one of which you might be using a sex toy on ;-)

Mike: Hi. Yes that will work. Let me know when is a good time when I can call that you both will be able to speak to me. I have to hear a female voice otherwise I will just think it's just another single guy on CL playing games pretending to be something there not just to get there rocks off.

Us: Call at 10 p.m. tonight :-)

Mike: Ok

Conclusion:

Guess What? He Never Called. Why originally send us a message, especially for such a specific request if you are full of it?  Now if he does decide to call, say on Thursday or on Friday, we just aren't interested.  If he is that flaky to begin with then why bother.  We aren't going to waste our time going to a bar to meet someone who was too lazy to dial 10 digits into a phone let alone then expect that he is going to drive to a bar.  He has no idea where an encoutner would lead, it could have even potentially led to a MFM if the chemistry was right, so not call was just sad on his part.  It is a good thing we insisted on his number instead of just agreeing to meet him at the bar - it is unlikely he would have showed.  It is nonsense like this why we won't meet single guys one one one outside of lifestyle parties and clubs.  It takes too much energy and this is normally the end result.  Flakes and fakes that waste our time :-(

TMI Tuesday #223 - Masturbation Edition

Her Answers

(1) When you masturbate, how long, typically, is your session and what do you think about (other than having an orgasm)? 10 minutes and I usually think about my boyfriend going down on me or another girl in the picture with us going down on me

(2) Have you ever been "caught" masturbating? No

(3) Have you ever masturbated in front of your computer? No

(4) Have you ever attended a group masturbation party? Same-sex or mixed? No

(5) When masturbating, as you reach orgasm, do you continue to stimulate yourself without interruption, or do you stop and apply pressure until your spasms subside? Or? Continue without interruption

(6) Have you ever video'ed yourself while masturbating (solo)? No

Bonus (as in optional): How often do you use the word "fuck" (or its derivatives) in casual conversation - frequently, occasionally, rarely, never. I would say rarely in casual conversation.

His Answers

(1) When you masturbate, how long, typically, is your session and what do you think about (other than having an orgasm)? It depends. Either I masturbate and think of me playing with someone or my girlfriend playing with someone OR I masturbate and watch/look at porn (which is more of a mindless exercise). If I do the former the session is generally pretty quick, maybe about ten minutes. If it is the latter it is a bit longer, maybe thirty minutes.

(2) Have you ever been "caught" masturbating? Yes

(3) Have you ever masturbated in front of your computer? If 'yes' was it for your own purposes or for someone's viewing pleasure? Yes – For my own purposes.

(4) Have you ever attended a group masturbation party? Same-sex or mixed? No

(5) When masturbating, as you reach orgasm, do you continue to stimulate yourself without interruption, or do you stop and apply pressure until your spasms subside? Or? I’ve done both.

(6) Have you ever video'ed yourself while masturbating (solo)? No

Bonus (as in optional): How often do you use the word "fuck" (or its derivatives) in casual conversation - frequently, occasionally, rarely, never. Occassionally

How to Meet Us

We love meeting (and playing with) new people, whether you are a Couple, Single Male, or Single Female. Sometimes meeting new people results in some exciting sex and other times just new non-sexual friendships. But in either case, if you would like to meet us, here is how:

(1) Visit the “Our Swingers Ad” Section to see what we are looking for, our preferences, and requirements*, AND then:

(A) Click on the “Upcoming Events” Section. There we list lifestyle events we will be attending in the near future along with their details, AND/OR

(B) Check our Twitter Regularly. Our Twitter updates are located on the right hand side of our website. This is where we will post updates on last-minute spontaneous visits to different lifestyle clubs.

(2) Once you have decided you will be attending a party we will be going to or you know of one we might be interested in or if you want to make other arrangements to meet (ONLY Applies to Single Females & Couples) then you have several options:

(A) E-mail Us,

(B) Contact Us Through a Lifestyle Service (SLS, SDC, PrivaStyle, etc.), OR

(C) Just show up at an event we are attending.

*Remember that even if you meet our requirements and preferences there still needs to be Chemistry when we actually meet in order for us to play.  Also note that while we will meet with those who do not necessarily meet our requirements at a lifestyle event, please understand that if you don't satisfy our requirements there is not a great chance that meeting us will result in playing with us.