Sex Party at the Shelburne Affinia Hotel in NYC

Even though we have been slacking in our posts, we have been active in the lifestyle, going to as many parties as we can.  The most recent one we went to was a hotel party a couple of weeks ago hosted at the Shelburne Affinia Hotel in Manhattan.  We are a bit hesitant about hotel parties due to the difference in atmosphere compared to house parties.  At a house party you typically have several different play areas where you can sneak off to and have fun, but at a hotel party it is all out in the open and easily leads to unwanted attention while you are trying to play with another couple.  The hosts had messaged us through Swing Life Style (SLS).  The fact that they themselves were young and attractive was a good sign.  They sent us a partial guest list and each couple on the list was very attractive.  The average age seemed to be early thirties.  That sold us on the party and off we went.  We were the first ones there for the start time of 8 p.m.  It was a beautiful suit with a large common area, two bathrooms, and two bedrooms.  I believe it ran the hosts around $800 to $900 for the night and they were charging each couple $60 to cover the costs.  It also had a balcony.  By 9 p.m. couples started trickling in and as each couple arrived we knew we would be in for a great party.  Maybe the fifth couple that came in, the girl was very attractive.  My girlfriend and I looked at each other and knew that she was the one we wanted to give our attention to.  She was a thin brunette in her early thirties wearing a short black skirt and white top. We immediately went over to where they sat themselves and introduced ourselves.  We will call them Kasey and Doug (not their real names). 

As we were flirting and getting to know Kasey and Doug, we were also including other couples in our vicinity in the conversation, more or less creating our own group.  Early on in the conversation Kasey indicated that they had one or two soft swap experiences and were not looking for full swap.  That was disappointing, but because we created a group of about six couples in our conversation we had other full swap options so we continued interacting until we though it was time to choose a couple and head to the bedrooms.  During this time we were all drinking and someone was sharing a mishap they had in the lifestyle with another couple.  Kasey responded, "how difficult is it?  The cock goes right here" [pointing to her pussy].  I immediately said to her, so does that mean you've just upgraded to being full swap?  She paused, looked at her boyfriend, then looked back and me, and said, "I guess so."  And so a full swap couple was born.  About ten minutes later we were in one of the bedrooms with my girlfriend taking off Kasey's clothes and the two of them making out. 

Now here comes one of the negatives with hotel parties and I do have to put some blame on Kasey.  When we started to get up to head to the bedroom, one of the girls of another couple asked her, "where are you guys going?"  Of course she just had to respond, "We are heading to the bedroom, you guys are all welcome."  Great, so now we had several couples and anyone in earshot that wanted to interpret what she said liberally heading to the bedroom with us. 

My girlfriend went down on Kasey and then they switched.  After some girl on girl, my girlfriend started sucking Doug's cock and I began going down on Kasey.  That is when others started coming onto the bed.  There were multiple hands feeling up Kasey.  It is just not the most enjoyable of experiences when I'm between the legs of a hot girl and my view is being blocked by guys trying to kiss the girl and play with her breasts.  Remember that these two have only had a soft swap experience or two in the past.  All the attention on Kasey was making Doug uncomfortable and that was physically manifested by his inability to get hard.  I decided that if I spent any more time going down on Kasey and not having sex, this full swap was going to fall apart.  So I put on a condom and started fucking Kasey missionary.  Again though, people were all in our space and her poor husband visibly frustrated.  After I came I suggested that Doug switch to fucking Kasey since maybe he would be more comfortable with that and then switch back to my girlfriend.  But even then at that point it was just not happening for the guy.  We decided to get dressed and head out to the common area for a water break. 

After we were all dressed Kasey had mentioned then that she felt uncomfortable and overwhelmed by all the people in the bed with us.  I told her that if she feels uncomfortable with people touching her, she needs to say something to them.  She isn't my partner so I'm not going to speak on her behalf for her.  A couple we are very friendly with was on the bed with us and the male half was one of the guys touching her and he actually asked her, "is it okay if I touch you?" and she said, "yes."  So she cannot blame others for being uncomfortable when she is giving the green light to people in the bed.  We suggested that the next time we play it can be just the four of us, this way it will be a more intimate experience.

And now for the second big negative of hotel parties: it got shut down.  Hotel management came knocking on the door, informed the hosts that there could only be six people in the room and everyone else had to leave.  I was happy, I got to have sex with a hot girl.  But I'm sure there were a lot of couples pretty upset that they traveled into the city, bought a bottle of liquor, and paid out the $60 entry fee just to be kicked out at midnight.  The party was a bit out of control.  There were a lot of couples, many were on the balcony being loud and smoking pot, and someone said the hostess kept running between bedrooms screaming out which room she thought was better which resulted in a group in one of the bedrooms to amp up the moaning. 

Overall we would go to another party hosted by this couple, just not at the Shelburne.  It seemed like a wonderful hotel to stay at if you were visiting Manhattan, just one to throw a sex party in. 

A Quick Start Guide for Single Males Entering the Swinging Lifestyle

While we have written guides before for single men in the lifestyle, a question from a reader prompted me to give a quick broad breakdown of steps to get started in the lifestyle. 

Before I share the guide below, I just wanted to share some personal thoughts on becoming involved in the lifestyle. Swinging is a couples activity.  Either it is couples seeking out other couples, couples seeking out single men, or couples seeking out single females.  Can single men truly be in the lifestyle?  No.  They have no power within it.  Now this is different from the poly play party scene, which is more of a free love type of atmosphere and is not couple centric.  But focusing just on the swinging lifestyle scene, if I woke up single tomorrow, I would not get involved as a single guy. 

The vast majority of couples that are available and willing to play with single men in the lifestyle are older (45+).  Is that really why you want to become part of the lifestyle?  To sleep with older women, or is the fantasy to sleep with young, 21-40 year olds?  You are better off learning how to approach women, both during regular daylight hours and at night venues and you will enjoy a much greater quality and quantity of sexual partners.  Now obviously there are exceptions.  If you are very attractive and in phenomenal shape, you are likely to garner the attention of much more desirable couples and if you also fall into the BBC fantasy you may enjoy lots of desirable experiences. 

If you are reading this and thinking, what does this guy know, I know what I want, give me the steps, fine, here they are:

1. Make an account on Swing Life Style (SLS).
2. Make sure it is fully filled out and you have clear flattering photos of yourself.
3. Message couples that indicate they have a desire to meet single men, and
4. Look at the events posting for house/loft/apartment/hotel parties that allow single men and contact the hosts to attend. Avoid clubs on Friday night. They are a waste and will cost a single male 100 to 150 a pop just to get in.

Secondary to the above, Date actively and screen for girls interested in being open sexually and if so, attend lifestyle parties with that girl. Swinging as a couple is a completely different experience than trying to swing as a single. It is the equivalent of someone being color blind and one day waking up to see in color.

A Slow Year

A few of our readers who know us personally have asked why there haven't been many posts.  The simple fact is that unlike prior years, this has been a really slow year.  If you count the New Years Eve party we attended, I've only been with sixteen girls this year.  Many of the parties we've gone to we just didn't play with anyone new.  However, it does seem that things may be picking up again and there are some very good house parties once again being organized on Long Island. Hopefully new posts will be coming :-)

Club Manor in Long Island, NY is Closing

Club Manor sent out a newsletter on Swing Life Style (SLS) that states the following:

Swing Club Manor CLOSING in two weeks

From the desk of Cynthia & Ron,

On behalf of Cynthia and myself, we would like to express our gratitude for giving us the opportunity to have serve the Tri-State lifestyle community over the last 10 years. We have met and bonded with lots of wonderful people throughout the years and we are sad to say that exactly after 10 years from our grand opening, we will be celebrating our grand closing.

We need some time for family, traveling and good night sleeps (LOL) and operating the club where most of you frequented because Cynthia and I greeted you and treated you as friends prevents us from having that time we desperately need.

Please join us on Friday 11th. and Saturday 12th. of September as we say Bon Voyage to Club Manor.

"Bonjour" to "Club Manor on the Road" will start soon. Sign up on our website for the news letter so you don't miss out on the EVENTS ON THE ROAD. Do not worry our product is not going away, but going on the road.

With hugs & kisses to all of you,
Cynthia and Ron