Deviate Party Network

On Saturday, August 11, 2018 we went to a hotel party hosted by the Deviate Party Network (DV8).  They advertise their parties on Swing LifeStyle (SLS). It is a hotel party where they block off an entire floor of the hotel and have designated party rooms on that floor and only lifestyle couples that are members of the group can book on that floor.  They also throw larger parties where they will block off several floors and reserve the ballroom for the party as well, similar to Fairfield & Westchester County Swingers (FWCS).  This party was called "Meet, Mingle & Menage Member Come as you are Floor Party!" and the party description was as follows:

EVENT DETAILS: Meet, Mingle & Ménage Member Appreciation party at our Resort venue! We're hosting another sexy wild night at our amazing resort venue. The Deviate Network has been the area's only exclusive members only club for almost 9 years running! We are giving back with a 100% free 100% private dual suite anything goes floor party! No theme come as you are get ready to party DV8 style! Discounted Party floor rooms available first come first serve! RSVP by signing up and we will send you the details! Don't miss out on party floor rooms! The sexiest couples always book early for this venue! Once rooms are gone they are gone! You do not need a room to attend this event! This event features a Buffet, Music Two party suits, hot tub and hot sexy clothing optional fun! Massages & DV8 Dare Pong and more! The Deviate Network always features exclusive, members only, intimate VIP events, This resort venue is no exception still the largest on the east coast and the perfect venue for this amazing lifestyle event! Resort Details: Deviate's mountain resort venue attracts a select group of sexy swingers from all over the Tri-State area. We have our own 100% private room block, anything goes! Located just outside New Paltz and just minutes from Kingston, Poughkeepsie and Newburgh Amenities Include: Cigar Bar, Lounge, European Day Spa, Full Gym, Golf Course, Indoor / Outdoor Pools! Why Deviate? • The Deviate Network, Award nominated veterans of the industry, eight-year lifestyle event hosts and creators the world phenomenon DV8 Dare! • DV8 Events are completely Private VIP events with top notch security in place. Your privacy is our number one priority. • The areas largest Resort Venue with all the amenities did we mention the area's ONLY Resort Venue? • The Hottest couples from all over the Tri-State Area! • We Pre-Approve everybody! Real Vetted Couples, Real Numbers, No Fluff. No Shuttles! The most accurate guests lists in the area! You must have a Deviate Network Membership to attend this event. Not yet a member? Apply today at deviatepartynetwork.com Sign up today, Stay Naughty Do you Deviate?™

In order to attend we needed to apply for a Deviate Network membership.  The membership costs $45 for the year.  They have their own group on MeWe and a lot of pre-party discussion and plans were made through the event chat on that platform.  They also mark confirmed those couples that were attending on SLS.  We met a bunch of the attendees already at a house party hosted by Northeast Elite Swingers group and the two groups seem pretty connected with each other.  Some of the group wanted to have a pool party at 1 p.m. and then the official start time for the hotel floor party was 6 p.m.  We were hoping to make it for the pool party but I didn't realize that the trip from Long Island to the hotel would take as long as it did.  We arrived at 4:30, showered and changed and came out to the party at 5:30.  The hosts setup two suites stocked with plenty of mixers and also hot food in the form of boneless BBQ wings, meatballs, and pasta.  There was a massage table and jacuzzi in one of the suites.  The party was in full swing by 9 p.m. with couples trickling in before then.  I'm not sure how many couples there were in total, but at least twenty if not more and we definitely felt that we had quite a few options. The age range went from late twenties through mid fifties. We ultimately played with a couple that we met back at the Northeast Elite Swingers house party and had an amazing time with them.  The party seemed to be slowing down by 1 a.m.  Though I could be off on my time.  The hotel itself was a bit dated.  I definitely wouldn't recommend staying there just to stay there, but the party was a great time.  Also, definitely get a room.  They did have beds available to use in the party suites, but it is always nice to have your own room to go back and play in and the hotel is in the middle of nowhere.  The roads are winding and hilly and aren't illuminated by highway lights and can be a bit dangerous to navigate at night.  Personally I don't think we would attend any parties there if it had recently been snowing or was snowing.  It just seems too dangerous of a trip under those conditions.  Overall we were very happy with the party.  The hosts were extremely nice and even setup coffee and pastries in the morning for the attendees to enjoy before departing.  We definitely plan on going back.  

Fairfield & Westchester County Swingers (FWCS)

On August 4, 2018 we attended the Fairfield & Westchester County Swingers (FWCS) "Leather & Lace Hotel Takeover" in Norwalk, CT.  We found the event by browsing through the event section of Swing Life Style (SLS).  The party is also listed on the Swingers Date Club (SDC).  FWCS has a website at http://www.fwcs.party.  The advertisement on SLS, SDC, and their site was as follows:

The Party: The night will kick off with a blowout dance party from 9PM-1AM. Come dance, mingle and get freaky with old and new friends. We’ll have hors d'oeuvres, Elle will be passing out free signature shots and free goodie bags for everyone who gets a room. We'll have three bars open all night long to mix your favorite libations. Our parties are always newbie-friendly. We encourage everyone to party and to play at their own pace. Our group is friendly, welcoming and Sexy! For us swinging is about having a good time with great people. No drama, no pressure and never any expectations of play. Not everyone will play, many will just mingle and all will have a good time. The theme for this party is "Leather and Lace". Ladies, dress in your sexiest leather or lace outfits. Gentlemen, if you don't want to wear leather, black is always a good choice! Not into themes? Don't worry, dressing in theme is completely optional. The Hotel: This is a large hotel and we will be taking over the top 3 floors exclusively for our group. We will also have the ballroom and some of the smaller meeting spaces on the first floor. You are not required to stay at the hotel to attend the party. Meet & Greet Dinner: There will be an optional meet and greet dinner buffet at the hotel from 5:30-7:00PM on Saturday night. Full details are on our site. Spinach Salad with Cranberries, Roasted Walnuts, Feta in a Lite Vinaigrette Dressing Sautéed Chicken Marsala Grilled Salmon with Tropical Fruit Salsa Warm rolls with butter Seasonal vegetables and starch Soft Drinks, Coffee Dessert The Fine Print: This is a private event, and only those on our guest list will receive the hotel and venue information. Space is limited, and WE WILL fill up. As always, we have a no questions asked cancellation policy up to 24 hours before the event. More Info: Space is limited, open to couples, single females and a very few select single males. Add yourself to the list for the rest of the details.

After singing up on SLS we sent the hosts a message and in turn they sent us a link to purchase tickets.  The ticket for a couple was $70 and for the hotel room $99 using their group code.  On the SLS event page those who paid had the word "Confirmed" on their profile picture and so we went through the list and messaged couples before hand that looked attractive and were confirmed to go.  We connected with six couples prior to going that we were really interested in but two cancelled prior to the party.

We arrived at around 7 p.m., checked into our room and then proceeded to the eighth floor to check in.  We were given a goodie bag and were given wristbands to access the ballroom.  We were told that attendees were placed on floors six through eight, but that there were vanilla people on the floors as well.  At 8 p.m. we headed downstairs to the ballroom.  There was security outside the room that checked for wristbands.  I'm not sure how many couples ultimately were in the ballroom, but it was packed.  The age range from the couples we interacted with were 30-60.  There were a good number of couples in their thirties and forties.  There were a few cash bars in the ballroom.  I don't recall how much beer was, but top shelf liquor was $9 and bottom shelf $8.  You were not allowed to bring your own alcohol into the ballroom.  We connected with some couples we had been speaking to online and at some point went up with a group to one of their rooms.  There were four couples, including us in total.  However, from what I was able to tell us and another couple, one that we had spoken online with prior to the party, were the only two couples that actually swapped in our group.  When we got finished playing it was close to 1 a.m.  We thought that there would be things going on between floors six through eight so we went back to our room, had a quick shower, and then went to explore, but it was pretty much dead.  A couple we knew gave us their room number so we headed there.  They were about to get started playing with another couple who we had met before but hadn't played with.  So we joined in and had a little orgy.  After that we headed back to our room.

One thing to note is that there were single men allowed in the party.  There did not seem to be many.  The hosts told us they tried to keep the amount to about 5% of all attendees.  Only one single guy approached us and I think it is important to mention because from start to finish he did not go about it in the best way.  I don't think what I'm about to share is a poor reflection on FWCS, but I'm including it for any single guys reading this so they can understand a couple's perspective and maybe avoid the same mistake this single guy made. 

On the day of the single guy sent us a message on SLS saying, "Hi.. I am a nice 30 year old doctor living in manhattan.. i'll be attending the party sat night in CT as well and would love to meet. I've never been to one of their parties but have heard great things. Take care. Dr J" I'm not sure how new or experienced he is to the lifestyle, but I do not know any couples in the lifestyle that would care one bit that he is a doctor.  It seemed odd to throw that in a first message, like he thought that would open doors for him somehow.  But anyhow, we ignored the message.  We already had made several connections online with couples we intended on meeting and didn't want to encourage any single guys to insert themselves into our conversations because they were thinking with their cock instead of their head, which has happened in the past.  So the entire party comes and goes (8 p.m. to 1 a.m.) and we've had our fun with two different groups already and we finally get back to our room ready to call it a night and within five seconds of shutting our door "Dr J" is knocking on it.  I recognized him from seeing him in the ballroom several times throughout the night.  He had all night to try to talk to us and now he is knocking on our hotel room door after watching us go in.  I have no idea where he came from, but it did come off creepy.  So now he wanted to have an opportunity to speak with us and right after opening the door and introducing ourselves one of the first things out of his mouth is that he is a doctor and also recalls seeing that we have advanced degrees and are professionals as well.  Yes, when we conversate with others at some point during the conversation what we do for a living does typically come up, but we don't lead with it.  The only reason I put it in the profile is that I want others to know we are educated and can likely carry a conversation.  Anyhow, I told him we were calling it a night, we had already played several times, and that maybe sometime in the future if we see him at a party we can see if there is chemistry, but not now, we are exhausted.  He seemed surprised and wanted to know where we played and I explained to him that we met different couples during the party in the ballroom and went back to their rooms and played, that these weren't open party rooms and that is how it is typically done.  He seemed disappointed, but that is what happens when you wander around the ballroom aimlessly all night and think that girls will spread their legs for you just because you went to medical school.  

Overall we had a really good time and would definitely go back.  However, we found ShareNation to be the superior hotel takeover and if the two had an event on the same night we would choose ShareNation over FWCS and here is why: (1) ShareNation is a two night event, allowing for the ability to connect with and play with many more couples. (2) ShareNation is couples only. (3) ShareNation is a full hotel takeover while FWCS is a partial hotel takeover.  There were plenty of vanilla people in the lobby area which were giving odd looks to the attendees and unlike ShareNation where the entire hotel is lifestyle, you didn't know if you had any vanillas around that can possibly be offended. (4) ShareNation had a dedicated party floor so after their ballroom closes the after party continues for the rest of the night which meant that you can continue making connections beyond 1 a.m.  

There are other hotel takeovers such as Philly Friction and IntimateParties Group (IPG) which we haven't yet tried so we aren't sure how ShareNation and FWCS compare to those parties yet, but we will be sure to give writeups after we check them out.

MeWe Group Party Review: Northeast Elite Swingers

We were going to be in East Rutherford, NJ on Friday, July 20, 2018 and posted a hot date on Swing Life Style (SLS).  A couple responded saying they were hosting a party in Newburg, NY, about an hours drive from where we were staying in New Jersey.  Initially we moved the conversation over to KIK and from there we were given an invitation to join their group called Northeast Elite Swingers on MeWe.  It is an invite only group and seems to be connected with another party called the Deviate Party Network.  We'll be attending a Deviate hotel event in August.

The description for the Northeast Elite Swingers group is:

Our new group is here so we can focus on the tristate area of NY, NJ and CONN. But also we accept all states and countries. We love to travel and hope you do too. Their should be no barrier for like minded people. We accept lifestyle swingers. Poly, open relationships, non monogamy, females, and non creepy select males. We offer all walks of the life style that is drama free. We will be tossing high energy meet n greets and in time hotel parties. House partys and any other venues are always welcome. Of course anyone in this group can meet one on one, two on two and so on. So lets have fun and make its the best lifestyle group out there. Members added will only be added if they have an existing member that can vouche for them. We dont want any creepers here. 

The house party was called "Luau House Party" and the description was as follows:

Friday July 20th 8pm to 3am Free BYOB house party. Snacks, beer, wine, soda and water are available. Everyone gets leid Hawaiian theme. Hostest [] requests theme attire.  [Address] will be provided week of event to everyone on guest list. Contact [] or myself with questions or issues. We have decided to not have single males at this event.

MeWe allows for event listings, chat, and guest lists.  We began interacting with different couples that would be at the party through MeWe.  The night of the party we arrived a bit late due to traffic.  We arrived at 10 p.m., two hours in and it looked as though pretty much everyone that was attending was already there.  There were ten to fifteen couples in attendance.  The hosts walked us around the party introducing us to everyone. 

We were instantly attracted to one couple in particular.  They were in their late twenties and she was really attractive.  They already were talking to another couple so we joined in the group.  As the night progressed me managed to pair off with them and head to a bedroom with just the four of us.  We began playing but before we got to intercourse she had to excuse herself as she wasn't feeling well.  She had a bit too much to drink and it got the better of her.  We felt horrible for them.  It is bad enough not feeling well from drinking too much, but even worse when it happens at a party.  The rest of the party had gone to a common play area and were having fun so we excused ourselves and headed to join the rest of the party where we ultimately swapped with another attractive couple attending the party.  

The hosts were very nice and made everyone feel comfortable.  They had snacks, mixers, and water out and opened up pretty much their entire house to those attending.  The quality of the couples there were good and the age range was from mid twenties to mid forties.  It was definitely worth the trip and we wouldn't hesitate to attend again if they have another house party in the future.  The group itself does throw house parties, meet and greets at public venues, and lists Deviate Party events.  

SLS Group Party Review: Greater NYC Swingers

On Saturday, July 15, 2018 we attended a hotel party in New Jersey hosted by the Greater NYC Swingers group on Swing Life Style (SLS).  Another couple had messaged us asking to meet and told us about the party.  We signed up for the party on SLS through the group page.  The description for the party was:

Greater New York SLS Group is a July LifeStyle Hotel Party on Saturday July 14 in [New Jersey]. This is a PRIVATE INVITE ONLY party. All guests are required to get pre-authorized ahead of time. This is a Couples only with a few select single females. All guests will be hand picked and interviewed (sorry we need to set a standard for this party). Details: Relaxed, easy going, no pressure atmosphere party. Limited to 16 Couples ONLY (due to space limitation). No requirement to play Door prize BYOB - favorite drinks (soda, juices, ice, water and cups will be provided along with a sexy server) BYOC - favorite condoms BYFT - favorite Toys Adult Swinger Games will be played. (Ice Breakers and more playfull) NON-SMOKING party Party 9PM - 3PM No entry after 11PM (hotle locks its main doors at 11pm and only hotel guests are allowed in) MUST have an SLS account as a couple Must open full body and face Pictures (of both males and female) to Host for verification NO SINGLE MEN 2 bedrooms to play and a living room to hang and play. Please contact Host for more info and details.

After adding ourselves to the guest list the host sent us a message on SLS asking if we have KIK or a phone number to text so they could ask a few questions and provide further details.  We provided them our cell number and were provided with more details as well as the cost.  It was $50 up until the week of the party and then it was raised to $75.  They had an online portal to pay.  We then booked a room in the same hotel.  We then proceeded to message every couple on the guest list letting them know we would be attending and our photos were open.  

We were the first to arrive at the party.  The hotel and suite were very nice.  There was a large living room/kitchen area, two bathrooms, and two bedrooms.  The hosts had plenty of snacks, mixers, and water available as well as music setup.  In total around fifteen to twenty couples came.  The quality of the couples was good with an age range of what looked like 30-45.  The host also had some ice breaker games (voluntary participation) that allowed couples to get to know each other.  The second couple to arrive was very attractive and we hit it off immediately only to find out when it was time to play that it was that time of the month for the girl.  We'll be seeing them at ShareNation in September so it will only be a short wait before we can pickup where we all left off.  We ultimately had a full swap with another couple who we had great chemistry with.  There were definitely several possibilities that night which is just the way we like parties.  The party came to an end around 2 a.m.  We would absolutely go back and in fact are looking forward to being able to attend the next one.  If you are interested in a well put together hotel party with hosts that get it, then this is a party to look into.