Posted on Saturday, January 10, 2015
On Saturday, October 25, 2014 we went to a house party in Long Island hosted by a couple we have known in the lifestyle for about a year now. The party was scheduled to start at 9:30, however because we had a prior engagement to attend in Staten Island we were unable to make it until around 10:30 p.m. This was a party that was on the smaller side with under ten couples.
I believe this was their second party and I know from personal experience throwing large vanilla parties almost every month that it does take some time to get things right. There were a few tweaks that if done I feel would have made the party better.
Play Areas: First up, the bedroom situation. Their place has three bedrooms, however one is used for an office, so that leaves two bedrooms with actual beds in it. There was a twin bed in the room that was available to the party and the master bedroom with the larger queen or king sized mattress was off limits to guests. I would suggest in the future, and for anyone throwing a lifestyle house party, open all bedrooms. A single bedroom with a small mattress will not be enough to accommodate an entire party. If you can fit an extra mattress on the floor in a room, definitely put one in.
Pets: Please put your pets away. It is very unsexy to have a dog roaming around sniffing people's crotches. Not to mention some people may have allergies.
Temperature: It was also cold in the house. I think they use the bedroom that was available to play in for their dog to typically stay in, so they had the window open to air it out and the upstairs was freezing. People will not be so quick to get naked if they are cold. If they are warm however, clothes will easily come off.
Mixers and Drinks: A large variety of liquor and mixers should be out. Alcohol helps fuel parties, whether they are vanilla or lifestyle.
At this particular party we had played with the hosts and two of the couples that were present on past occasions. We were not interested in any of the other couples that were there. Everyone was more or less congregated in the living room or kitchen. They decorated nicely for Halloween, but this was not a costume party. We were more or less just socializing and trying to decide whether we would replay with a couple or call it a night. Around midnight a very attractive couple came in, Samantha and Mike. Samantha was a thin blonde wearing a sexy school girl outfit. As soon as she walked in the door I thought bingo, we have our couple.
We were in the living room and they walked through towards the kitchen with their drinks. My girlfriend excused herself from her conversation with a few of the other guests and went to go speak with them. I let them chat for about ten minutes and then headed over to the kitchen myself and joined in. The four of us headed back to the living room and sat on the couch. My girlfriend got up to go to the restroom and Samantha started getting physical with me right away and asked me if we would like to go upstairs. I was pretty surprised at how quick they wanted to get things moving. People were already starting to play in the living room and clothes were starting to come off so when my girlfriend came back from the bathroom I suggested we all go upstairs. Surprisingly the sole bedroom was unoccupied, so of course we occupied it, locking the door behind us.
You snooze, you lose. With the four of us being the most attractive people at the party, it would only be a short time before others would try to join us and it makes life so much easier when you have a door to shut for privacy.
My girlfriend and Samantha started making out and taking each other's clothes off. We switched off fairly quickly and I began going down on Samantha. I didn't really go down on her too long before she pulled me up and asked me to fuck her. I went to down. This girl was extremely attractive and it was very easy being in that moment and enjoying the sex. At some point in the entire mix of all of us fucking the host comes into the room and starts asking us what we were doing in the bedroom, didn't we know it was off limits. He has a funny sense of humor which both my girlfriend and I get, but the couple we were with, not so much. They actually thought they did something wrong and shouldn't be in the bedroom. The host of course was just joking and let us be, but I had to calm Samantha down a little bit and make sure she understood he wasn't serious and was just messing with us that we weren't allowed to be playing the bedroom. I had a wonderful time with Samantha and I think the four of us spent about two hours in that room together having fun with a little half time break in between sessions. When I finished the second time I hear my girlfriend giggling next to me. I didn't even notice but Mike was on his back and was literally bouncing her up off of him and then she would come down and land with his cock going into her. She thought it was funny for some reason. All I could think of is what in the world is this guy doing, he is going to end up in the hospital with a messed up cock if she lands funny. Thankfully she didn't land funny. We got cleaned up, headed down stairs and did the customary goodbyes to everyone and called it another great night :-)
Posted on Saturday, January 03, 2015
Hey guys, sorry for the lack of posts for the last two months. My laptop decided ten years was long enough on this earth and died on me. We've gone to six parties since then, so I will be trying to write out those experiences and schedule them to come out once a week moving forward. This post will discuss our little New Years Eve adventure.
I've debated how to do the descriptions on the house parties. Do I write the couple's screen name? If I don't it really doesn't provide key information that those reading this blog would want. But if I do, it will bring unwanted attention to a couple that we may enjoy seeing again. I've decided not to put the hosts screen name, but at least you will get an overview of how the different house parties in the New York City, New Jersey, and Long Island areas work.
We've been so busy going to parties that New Years Eve snuck up on us and we had made no plans. We set up a hot date on Swing Life Style (SLS) and Swingers Date Club (SDC) hoping that couples would let us know if any house parties were going on in the area. We were invited to three parties, but each of them had approximately five couples. We won't attend parties typically with less than ten. When you say ten, you normally get five that show up. When you say five, guess how many will likely show up other than yourselves. We turned down those three parties, thought our New Years Eve was a bust but then the day before got a message from a couple we recently played with going to a party. We reached out to the hosts and our plans were set, a house party in Queens, NY.
We, as usual, were the first to arrive. We got there a few minutes before 9 p.m. So we could both drink we took an Uber both ways. I think that was the most expensive cab ride we've ever taken at approximately $140.00 round trip. What we should have done was taken the Long Island Rail Road into Queens and then taken the Uber at a fraction of the cost. We originally met this couple a few years back at a New Years Eve party hosted by Taste. I believe there were nine couples including us. The setup was done in the basement of the hosting couple's home. So there was a bar/kitchen area and behind that were futons and air mattresses. They did not have any snacks sadly, but did have alcohol and mixers out.
This setup is not ideal for several reasons:
(1) Not all couples want to play in an open area where everyone can watch or easily join in.
(2) Opening up bedrooms for play allows those who want more privacy or to not have others jump in the comfort they need to have a good time.
(3) Air mattresses are terrible. Only real mattresses should be used. If the air mattress isn't inflated to the point of almost popping, it isn't going to do well supporting several people fucking on them. Those on it will find themselves sinking in awkward positions which doesn't help in keeping the mood and flow going.
(4) What, no food? Any party should at least have some snacks like chips, I don't care if we are fucking or just hanging out.
Out of the group of couples that were there, we decided that we were not going to replay with the hosts. They are attractive, but I just don't feel any sexual chemistry with the woman. We'll call them for the purposes of this post Brenda and John. There was another couple that came in, Dave and Beth that really caught our eye. She is a stripper...I mean dancer ;-)...at one of the high end clubs in Manhattan. Sadly she is only soft swap so we crossed them off our list fairly quickly. Two other couples caught our eye. The first of the two was an attractive pair, but not overly attractive. He had a resemblance to Nick Lashey. She was a pretty brunette. Lets call them Samantha and Nick. We had chemistry with them right away, but the night wasn't really moving forward. We then made sure we spoke with the other couple we were interested in, Amy and Peter. They are both from South America and she was also and attractive brunette.
Sometime around 12:30 a.m. the host make a good decision to turn off the lights. At that point we had already dragged Samantha and Nick to the play area, being the first ones to jump right in. Now typically there is a very easy natural progression to swinging. The girls start playing with each other, and the guys then slowly join in completing the swap. Very easy. This couple...they didn't get the memo. A little girl on girl but then right away he is fucking his girlfriend. Finally at some point my girlfriend gets his attention and tells him that she wants him to eat her out. He goes down on her, and Samantha goes down on me, but then right when it is time to advance things, she runs to the restroom then makes a detour to the stripper girl to exchange contact information. Hello? We were just about to fuck, what are you doing? All of a sudden, Liz, a girl jumped on the bed with me and started going down on me. Now we had played with Liz and her husband about a month prior at another party, but this definitely wasn't proper swinger etiquette. It is essentially a cockblock. Nick wanted to fuck my girlfriend but she shut it down at that moment because well...there was no swap happening. I excused myself from the bed, feeling a little bad that I did that to Liz, but she more or less did that to herself, went to the bathroom myself, came back, decided to exchange numbers with the stripper couple myself and then went back to the bed to find Nick and his girlfriend Samantha fucking. I just told my girlfriend it was time to head to couple number two.
We went to the other side of the room and got onto the sinking air mattress and began playing with that couple. She was wearing some kind of elaborate lingerie that I could not figure out. I got the bra off easy enough but as I was working on the garter belt, her husband Peter starts fucking her. I'm sorry, but can't you see I'm working here, wtf? So Jess takes Peter to a futon, lays back and starts sucking his cock while Amy went down on my girlfriend. I fingered Amy for awhile, but the angle things were there was nothing more I could do other than start fucking her which I felt was too soon. However, my girlfriend grabbed a condom, gave one to me and one to Peter and I started fucking her doggy style. I'm not sure why, but Peter only fucked my girlfriend for a couple of minutes and then excused himself. I continued to fuck Amy doggy for awhile and then moved her to another futon and fucked her missionary. This was an attractive girl, but at the same time, I don't know, I just wasn't feeling it. Her facial expression was very monotone...I'm not sure if that even makes sense, but that real sexual connection was just missing, that, and she wasn't very wet. I decided to take a time out, head to the bathroom, grab a quick drink to re-hydrate and when I came back to the play area a couple of minutes later there was my girlfriend being eaten out by Amy with the original girl, Samantha making out with my girlfriend.
I got on the bed and started feeling up Samantha. I had been a little annoyed with whatever nonsense was going on with her earlier, but I figured that I saw her fuck someone else a little while ago, maybe she was ready to go. I put on a condom and began fucking her doggy style. Her pussy....way better than Amy's pussy. She was wet and she was enjoying it, moaning up a storm. That got me really going. I then switched her to missionary and fucked her until I came. My girlfriend and I then decided to take a break and grab some water. We got dressed and I think that signaled that the party was ending to a few couples there. We just normally get dressed when we aren't playing. It keeps people from trying to drag us back into the play area when we aren't ready to go back. Both the girls I played with did not have a lot of experience and that may explain some things. Also, Samantha claims she is a psychic that speaks to the dead for a living...so maybe that is all that needs to be said about that one.
Remember ladies and gents, swinging is easy. Girl on girl then swap. If one of the girls is not bisexual, then right into the swap. Play with each other after, NOT before. Especially not before WITHOUT condoms. I know bodily fluid is being swapped on different levels, but the first thing a girl that is not your partner wants to do is suck on your cock after you've been plowing your wife with it for several minutes.
Posted on Saturday, November 01, 2014
It has been a little over a year since Caligula opened its doors in Astoria and just as much time has passed since we last visited the club. The first time we had gone we found the crowd out of our age range and did not return. For Saturday, October 11, 2014 there were only two events going on in the New York City/Long Island area, which was the Mayor's Party and Jimmy's Birthday at Caligula. For those of you that have been reading my ramblings you will have noticed that I had unkind words for the Mayor's Party several posts back, so that left one option for this weekend.
This was a couples/single females only event. Over a hundred profiles signed up on Swing Life Style (SLS). By signing up on SLS and arriving before 11:30 p.m., the entry fee was $65.00. It is BYOB. We arrived at 10:30. There were not a lot of couples there yet. When you first walk in you are confronted with a young lady which checks your SLS name against a list and takes your money. I believe you can also coat check there as well. Then you proceed into the club. It is a two floor venue. When you first walk in to the right is a large bar, straight ahead are bathrooms, and to the left is a large dance area, stage, and seating. Out back is a smoking area. Upstairs are private, semi-private, and open play areas and additional bathrooms. In New York these clubs are NOT allowed to sell alcohol. However, one of the guests did tell us that for $5.00 a pop you could get a mixed drink. Keep this in mind because they are potentially setting themselves up for New York City to come in and shut them down by doing so. I personally do not want to be having sex upstairs and the place gets raided because they are improperly selling alcohol without a liquor license.
We had messaged several guests on the SLS guest list that we thought were potentials earlier in the day. Only one responded. That couple when we went and introduced ourselves looked approximately ten years older than their photos. Not appealing. We then noticed a couple walk by as we were talking to them, James and Elise. Elise was the usual thin attractive brunette that is my type. We ejected from the couple we were speaking with and went and introduced ourselves. We hung out with them and mingled with other couples for about another hour or so and then headed upstairs to the play areas. Elise is proud to call herself a voyeur and an exhibitionist, and this she definitely was. There was a private room available which my girlfriend immediately made a b-line for, but Elise was having none of that. She wanted the most open room available.
There was some girl on girl action and then we did the switcharoo. I have to say that this girl was phenomenal in bed. It had more to do with the way she would look at me than anything else, but after about 20 minutes of fucking she started doing this hip circular motion while in missionary and had located her legs behind me, so I was not getting out of it. It felt so damn good that I was just done. I don't know what it is, but the last few girls I've played with have been a little more aggressive with their participation in the actual fucking and I've come to realize that I definitely like that. Meanwhile during all of this there had to be about thirty people around our bed just watching us have sex. Throughout being in the lifestyle I've had sex just in a room with our play partners, and in open areas where people can watch, and I just do not care for having an audience.
When we cleaned up and went back down to the first floor the place was packed. There were definitely quite a few attractive couples under the age of 35 walking around. We are very happy we decided to come back, but a few regulars had mentioned that this was not the typical size or makeup of the crowds. So the lesson here is that if it is a large event like the host's birthday, it is worth the visit. Hopefully they stop with the liquor sales there though. Stupid behavior results in poor outcomes.
Final Verdict: Visit when they are having a large party, otherwise pass for a different venue throwing a large party.
Posted on Saturday, October 25, 2014
So this is an interesting one. It was brought to the attention of the administrators of Swing Life Style (SLS) during the week of October 13, 2014 that there was a security issue with their photo galleries. It was possible for logged in users to view private galleries of other users without actually being granted access to those galleries by the owners of them.
Doing a search online I noticed a posting on a discussion board in August 2014 discussing ways to access SLS galleries that were private. It is likely this discussion thread set off the administrators of SLS to address the issue.
It is our understanding that this photo gallery issue has been in existence for many years. It could have been a useful piece of knowledge to those who were aware of it. Imagine that they could see what members looked like prior to messaging them, see what they looked like before responding to them if they failed to open up their private galleries prior to initial contact, or see what people looked like on event guest lists without having to message each of them to find out.
But all in all, I do find it amusing that it took SLS this long to realize this issue. This incident does provide some useful lessons:
(1) Loose lips sink ships. The idiot that posted the exploit on the discussion thread was an idiot if he ever intended to use that information again in the future. Once any type of security flaw is posted publicly on the internet, everyone will know and then it will be repaired and no longer useful in very quick order.
(2) This is also a nice wake up call to those that think that posting any photos online can actually be private. There is no such thing. Don't post something online unless you are okay with the whole world seeing it at some point. There are people still out there that think a script that shuts off right click function on a website prevents people from saving photos. They must never have heard of print screen. And after the celebrity nude photos leak from the iCloud, can anyone really think that once a photo is off your computer or cell phone it is really secure?
Obviously while such news may be concerning for those either already signed up to SLS or thinking of joining, I still believe it is the best website for facilitating swinging encounters in New York. And SLS is not the only site with imperfect site designs. Other sites have had security flaws as well. Just be cautious with what you share online generally speaking and there should be no worries.