Friction Hotel Takeovers

Friction hosts hotel takeovers in several states including Pennsylvania, New Jersey, North Carolina, and Ohio.  You can find them here:  We have been to three of their takeovers in Pennsylvania and New Jersey.  These parties are very similar to ShareNation takeovers. They are two day events, are full takeovers, have a theme, different daytime activities, and even operate off a Modern Life website format so a couple can copy their profile between the two sites.  These are couple and single female only takeovers, so no single men.  We went to two of their Halloween takeovers and one of their pool party takeovers.  The crowd is a younger crowd compared to the ShareNation NJ takeovers and are more on par with the ShareNation RI takeovers.  We haven't been able to figure out who the hosts are at these parties in the sense that at ShareNation the hosts, Janis and Carlos, are friendly, always available, and the face of the takeover, where Philly Friction it just isn't obvious to us.  We have noticed that the Fridays appear to be full takeovers and have more guests in attendance than we have seen at ShareNation.  We haven't been to an IPG takeover on a Friday night, but at a recent one we attended we were told by other guests that the Friday night wasn't crowded. Overall we enjoy the Friction takeovers and our plan is to continue to attend them.

To give an example of their format I've copied below their itinerary for the last party of theirs we attended back in October 2019.  This particular party cost us approximately $51 which was at a discount for early purchase.  A one year membership is $109, though there are also options for monthly, three months, and six months.  I cannot recall the cost of the hotel room per night but I believe it was somewhere between $100 and $150.

Friday, October 26:

SDC kick off Friday Night - "The Devils Desire" 9 PM: This event starts off in the PRIVATE Lounge with a Cash bar and music. Then following the lounge we will move to the amazing, sexy pool set up at 11PM! Erotic lighting, party music, a huge Jacuzzi. (You can stay and party in the lounge also until 2 AM - Your choice). We will have the pool decked out all in RED lighting for this event.

Saturday, October 27:

11 AM: -Yoga class with Melicent & Bradford "SynWithUs" - Please bring your own mats. We will have water & towels

1 to 2 PM - Pole dancing class in main ballroom with Alyisha

12:30 AM:  Late night pizza served compliments of Friction

12:30 AM- Pool opens back up for After party with dance/sexy music for truly erotic experience. (CASH BAR) Guest DJ NIPS/DJ Dominic Anthony will have you partying all night long!

2:30 PM - Erotic massage classes - learn how to give your partner an erotic massage.

2 PM- Early check in & open sexy swim in the indoor pool - great way to meet sexy members before the main event!

7:00 PM - Special ultra sexy guest host" RJNALLIE" pre meet. Intro for newbies/Friction parties and open to all on 4th floor suite with light appys & shots.  Our biggest pre meet with lots of room to socialize.

9 PM- 1:30 AM -Main event (CASH BAR) in ballroom with DJ RUPE, stripper poles, dance cage.. A PLAYROOM will be available across from the ballroom till 3 AM as well as a quite lounge for hanging, talking & getting to know others. The downstairs lounge will also be open with music, drinks and food. MANY OPTIONS!

2:AM -FRICTIONS famous Floor crawl on the 3rd Floor -"Shots to Share-Trick or Treat" theme - We ask that if you request this floor & are staying on this floor, that you MUST have doors open and participate. If you like to retire to a quiet floor than please do not choose this floor for your room. EVERYONE will have the chance to meet someone on this night.

Clubs & Parties Update

This past year we've been going to lifestyle parties on an almost weekly basis.  The lack of posts have merely been because I did not see the benefit of reviewing the same venues over and over again. I also didn't see the point in reviewing one off or private house or hotel parties.  We did head to Philly Friction for the first time in October 2018 and were signed up to go again this past weekend.  Unfortunately they had an issue with the hotel and had to cancel the party so we went to Share Nation in Rhode Island instead, which was a blast, just like all the other Share Nation takeovers we've been to in both New Jersey and Rhode Island.  I wanted to hit one more Philly Friction before writing the review of that takeover.  I have updated the Clubs and Parties section to include hotel takeovers, cruises, and resorts.   We're signed up for the 2020 Bliss Cruise so that will be something new.

Deviate Party Network

On Saturday, August 11, 2018 we went to a hotel party hosted by the Deviate Party Network (DV8).  They advertise their parties on Swing LifeStyle (SLS). It is a hotel party where they block off an entire floor of the hotel and have designated party rooms on that floor and only lifestyle couples that are members of the group can book on that floor.  They also throw larger parties where they will block off several floors and reserve the ballroom for the party as well, similar to Fairfield & Westchester County Swingers (FWCS).  This party was called "Meet, Mingle & Menage Member Come as you are Floor Party!" and the party description was as follows:

EVENT DETAILS: Meet, Mingle & Ménage Member Appreciation party at our Resort venue! We're hosting another sexy wild night at our amazing resort venue. The Deviate Network has been the area's only exclusive members only club for almost 9 years running! We are giving back with a 100% free 100% private dual suite anything goes floor party! No theme come as you are get ready to party DV8 style! Discounted Party floor rooms available first come first serve! RSVP by signing up and we will send you the details! Don't miss out on party floor rooms! The sexiest couples always book early for this venue! Once rooms are gone they are gone! You do not need a room to attend this event! This event features a Buffet, Music Two party suits, hot tub and hot sexy clothing optional fun! Massages & DV8 Dare Pong and more! The Deviate Network always features exclusive, members only, intimate VIP events, This resort venue is no exception still the largest on the east coast and the perfect venue for this amazing lifestyle event! Resort Details: Deviate's mountain resort venue attracts a select group of sexy swingers from all over the Tri-State area. We have our own 100% private room block, anything goes! Located just outside New Paltz and just minutes from Kingston, Poughkeepsie and Newburgh Amenities Include: Cigar Bar, Lounge, European Day Spa, Full Gym, Golf Course, Indoor / Outdoor Pools! Why Deviate? • The Deviate Network, Award nominated veterans of the industry, eight-year lifestyle event hosts and creators the world phenomenon DV8 Dare! • DV8 Events are completely Private VIP events with top notch security in place. Your privacy is our number one priority. • The areas largest Resort Venue with all the amenities did we mention the area's ONLY Resort Venue? • The Hottest couples from all over the Tri-State Area! • We Pre-Approve everybody! Real Vetted Couples, Real Numbers, No Fluff. No Shuttles! The most accurate guests lists in the area! You must have a Deviate Network Membership to attend this event. Not yet a member? Apply today at Sign up today, Stay Naughty Do you Deviate?™

In order to attend we needed to apply for a Deviate Network membership.  The membership costs $45 for the year.  They have their own group on MeWe and a lot of pre-party discussion and plans were made through the event chat on that platform.  They also mark confirmed those couples that were attending on SLS.  We met a bunch of the attendees already at a house party hosted by Northeast Elite Swingers group and the two groups seem pretty connected with each other.  Some of the group wanted to have a pool party at 1 p.m. and then the official start time for the hotel floor party was 6 p.m.  We were hoping to make it for the pool party but I didn't realize that the trip from Long Island to the hotel would take as long as it did.  We arrived at 4:30, showered and changed and came out to the party at 5:30.  The hosts setup two suites stocked with plenty of mixers and also hot food in the form of boneless BBQ wings, meatballs, and pasta.  There was a massage table and jacuzzi in one of the suites.  The party was in full swing by 9 p.m. with couples trickling in before then.  I'm not sure how many couples there were in total, but at least twenty if not more and we definitely felt that we had quite a few options. The age range went from late twenties through mid fifties. We ultimately played with a couple that we met back at the Northeast Elite Swingers house party and had an amazing time with them.  The party seemed to be slowing down by 1 a.m.  Though I could be off on my time.  The hotel itself was a bit dated.  I definitely wouldn't recommend staying there just to stay there, but the party was a great time.  Also, definitely get a room.  They did have beds available to use in the party suites, but it is always nice to have your own room to go back and play in and the hotel is in the middle of nowhere.  The roads are winding and hilly and aren't illuminated by highway lights and can be a bit dangerous to navigate at night.  Personally I don't think we would attend any parties there if it had recently been snowing or was snowing.  It just seems too dangerous of a trip under those conditions.  Overall we were very happy with the party.  The hosts were extremely nice and even setup coffee and pastries in the morning for the attendees to enjoy before departing.  We definitely plan on going back.  

Fairfield & Westchester County Swingers (FWCS)

On August 4, 2018 we attended the Fairfield & Westchester County Swingers (FWCS) "Leather & Lace Hotel Takeover" in Norwalk, CT.  We found the event by browsing through the event section of Swing Life Style (SLS).  The party is also listed on the Swingers Date Club (SDC).  FWCS has a website at  The advertisement on SLS, SDC, and their site was as follows:

The Party: The night will kick off with a blowout dance party from 9PM-1AM. Come dance, mingle and get freaky with old and new friends. We’ll have hors d'oeuvres, Elle will be passing out free signature shots and free goodie bags for everyone who gets a room. We'll have three bars open all night long to mix your favorite libations. Our parties are always newbie-friendly. We encourage everyone to party and to play at their own pace. Our group is friendly, welcoming and Sexy! For us swinging is about having a good time with great people. No drama, no pressure and never any expectations of play. Not everyone will play, many will just mingle and all will have a good time. The theme for this party is "Leather and Lace". Ladies, dress in your sexiest leather or lace outfits. Gentlemen, if you don't want to wear leather, black is always a good choice! Not into themes? Don't worry, dressing in theme is completely optional. The Hotel: This is a large hotel and we will be taking over the top 3 floors exclusively for our group. We will also have the ballroom and some of the smaller meeting spaces on the first floor. You are not required to stay at the hotel to attend the party. Meet & Greet Dinner: There will be an optional meet and greet dinner buffet at the hotel from 5:30-7:00PM on Saturday night. Full details are on our site. Spinach Salad with Cranberries, Roasted Walnuts, Feta in a Lite Vinaigrette Dressing Sautéed Chicken Marsala Grilled Salmon with Tropical Fruit Salsa Warm rolls with butter Seasonal vegetables and starch Soft Drinks, Coffee Dessert The Fine Print: This is a private event, and only those on our guest list will receive the hotel and venue information. Space is limited, and WE WILL fill up. As always, we have a no questions asked cancellation policy up to 24 hours before the event. More Info: Space is limited, open to couples, single females and a very few select single males. Add yourself to the list for the rest of the details.

After singing up on SLS we sent the hosts a message and in turn they sent us a link to purchase tickets.  The ticket for a couple was $70 and for the hotel room $99 using their group code.  On the SLS event page those who paid had the word "Confirmed" on their profile picture and so we went through the list and messaged couples before hand that looked attractive and were confirmed to go.  We connected with six couples prior to going that we were really interested in but two cancelled prior to the party.

We arrived at around 7 p.m., checked into our room and then proceeded to the eighth floor to check in.  We were given a goodie bag and were given wristbands to access the ballroom.  We were told that attendees were placed on floors six through eight, but that there were vanilla people on the floors as well.  At 8 p.m. we headed downstairs to the ballroom.  There was security outside the room that checked for wristbands.  I'm not sure how many couples ultimately were in the ballroom, but it was packed.  The age range from the couples we interacted with were 30-60.  There were a good number of couples in their thirties and forties.  There were a few cash bars in the ballroom.  I don't recall how much beer was, but top shelf liquor was $9 and bottom shelf $8.  You were not allowed to bring your own alcohol into the ballroom.  We connected with some couples we had been speaking to online and at some point went up with a group to one of their rooms.  There were four couples, including us in total.  However, from what I was able to tell us and another couple, one that we had spoken online with prior to the party, were the only two couples that actually swapped in our group.  When we got finished playing it was close to 1 a.m.  We thought that there would be things going on between floors six through eight so we went back to our room, had a quick shower, and then went to explore, but it was pretty much dead.  A couple we knew gave us their room number so we headed there.  They were about to get started playing with another couple who we had met before but hadn't played with.  So we joined in and had a little orgy.  After that we headed back to our room.

One thing to note is that there were single men allowed in the party.  There did not seem to be many.  The hosts told us they tried to keep the amount to about 5% of all attendees.  Only one single guy approached us and I think it is important to mention because from start to finish he did not go about it in the best way.  I don't think what I'm about to share is a poor reflection on FWCS, but I'm including it for any single guys reading this so they can understand a couple's perspective and maybe avoid the same mistake this single guy made. 

On the day of the single guy sent us a message on SLS saying, "Hi.. I am a nice 30 year old doctor living in manhattan.. i'll be attending the party sat night in CT as well and would love to meet. I've never been to one of their parties but have heard great things. Take care. Dr J" I'm not sure how new or experienced he is to the lifestyle, but I do not know any couples in the lifestyle that would care one bit that he is a doctor.  It seemed odd to throw that in a first message, like he thought that would open doors for him somehow.  But anyhow, we ignored the message.  We already had made several connections online with couples we intended on meeting and didn't want to encourage any single guys to insert themselves into our conversations because they were thinking with their cock instead of their head, which has happened in the past.  So the entire party comes and goes (8 p.m. to 1 a.m.) and we've had our fun with two different groups already and we finally get back to our room ready to call it a night and within five seconds of shutting our door "Dr J" is knocking on it.  I recognized him from seeing him in the ballroom several times throughout the night.  He had all night to try to talk to us and now he is knocking on our hotel room door after watching us go in.  I have no idea where he came from, but it did come off creepy.  So now he wanted to have an opportunity to speak with us and right after opening the door and introducing ourselves one of the first things out of his mouth is that he is a doctor and also recalls seeing that we have advanced degrees and are professionals as well.  Yes, when we conversate with others at some point during the conversation what we do for a living does typically come up, but we don't lead with it.  The only reason I put it in the profile is that I want others to know we are educated and can likely carry a conversation.  Anyhow, I told him we were calling it a night, we had already played several times, and that maybe sometime in the future if we see him at a party we can see if there is chemistry, but not now, we are exhausted.  He seemed surprised and wanted to know where we played and I explained to him that we met different couples during the party in the ballroom and went back to their rooms and played, that these weren't open party rooms and that is how it is typically done.  He seemed disappointed, but that is what happens when you wander around the ballroom aimlessly all night and think that girls will spread their legs for you just because you went to medical school.  

Overall we had a really good time and would definitely go back.  However, we found ShareNation to be the superior hotel takeover and if the two had an event on the same night we would choose ShareNation over FWCS and here is why: (1) ShareNation is a two night event, allowing for the ability to connect with and play with many more couples. (2) ShareNation is couples only. (3) ShareNation is a full hotel takeover while FWCS is a partial hotel takeover.  There were plenty of vanilla people in the lobby area which were giving odd looks to the attendees and unlike ShareNation where the entire hotel is lifestyle, you didn't know if you had any vanillas around that can possibly be offended. (4) ShareNation had a dedicated party floor so after their ballroom closes the after party continues for the rest of the night which meant that you can continue making connections beyond 1 a.m.  

There are other hotel takeovers such as Philly Friction and IntimateParties Group (IPG) which we haven't yet tried so we aren't sure how ShareNation and FWCS compare to those parties yet, but we will be sure to give writeups after we check them out.