SLS Group Party Review: Carnal Fun Sex Group

On Friday, July 13, 2018, we attended a hotel party in Queens, NY run by the group on Swing Life Style (SLS) called "Carnal Fun Sex Group."  The host had reached out to us in the past on both SLS and AFF and we saw they had a party listed in the events section on SLS.  The description for the party reads:

Hot Party Friday night July 13th Only a few days left to register for the play night on sls under the events calendar and send contact info to hosts. We still need to voice verify and talk about party details and safety rules with you both before the party. Ready to play or fulfill your fantasy? Party in Queens near Manhattan Hot Private Deluxe Swing Party in NYC. We have fourteen sls certifications and are meeting up with our swinging friends, couples and ladies only who voice and pic verify only. Ladies are bi or straight, men are straight. (No gay or bi men.) This is an upscale full swap, full choice, no jealousy private and discreet, deluxe, upscale swing party in NYC. We have many experienced and some new play partners. We play safely and enjoy hours of shared pleasure. Send your contact info to the host to get more detailed information and to get on the party list. This is a hotel party for members who have voice and picture verified with us. Must be over 21, safe and well groomed, and clean. This is a non smoking event for safe play. Looking forward to seeing you and playing soon on Friday night July 13th!

Upon signing up for the event on SLS the host messaged us asking us to RSVP on KIK and they provided us with their KIK screen name.  We had no idea what he meant by RSVPing on KIK.  As a side note, we have noticed a trend on the different lifestyle sites of people wanting to communicate on KIK.  Upon connecting with him on KIK the host sent us a photo of him and his girlfriend and requested that we voice verify and wanted to schedule a time to do so.  Now mind you that we have almost 90 certifications on SLS and a number of certifications/validations/testimonials on the various other lifestyle sites out there, so we thought that was a bit much. In ten years of swinging and going to probably a couple of hundred parties not once has anyone ever asked us to voice verify.  We set a date and time and my girlfriend called in.  We were told it would be $80 to attend.  I had asked the host for a guest list but they wouldn't provide one for "privacy" of the guests.  I thought this was a bit silly.  He seems to be recruiting exclusively from SLS, AFF, and Feeld, which providing screen names on these services is not violating the privacy of those people.  We aren't asking for their real names or phone numbers.  But he did add us to a KIK group.  There are fifty people in the group and it was extremely difficult to figure out who was actually going and who wasn't.  The host had a rule that you had to ask permission in the group chat to individually message anyone.  We chatted with a variety of couples but they all seemed wishy washy.  We even agreed to meet one at Caligula two Fridays ago and they didn't show up (and flaked on the actual hotel party too).  Almost none of them are on SLS and the ones that are didn't have certifications, so we were pretty skeptical.  Then the comments made by the hosts in the chat room just were a bit odd.

"If anybody has any questions fantasy we can try to make it happen (assuming safe and consent).  For example some ladies dream to try dp sex."

"Reminder no perfume or cologne on play party date.  We love clean Otherwise people may sneeze"

"23 year old Italian lady attending, she's new."

"Reminder upscale party; no sneakers thanks."

"Jay and his lady confirmed returning members. (white couple)"

"White couple from Canada confirmed.  We should start our own UN"

The day prior to the party the hosts changed the hotel from Long Island City to one right near JFK airport because he claimed he could not get adjoining rooms.  Between the silly rules of the host and now this I found it to be amateurish.  There are couples like us that will book a room in the same hotel where a party is so they don't have to drive back.  In this case the hotel is not far from our place so we had the option of Ubering or driving and I would remain sober.  But changing hotels like that last minute can really impact guests.

We arrived at 9:40 p.m. and were the second couple there.  Right away we learn that the host is really a single guy.  There is no girlfriend.  He puts himself out as a couple in both his SLS profile and on KIK.  Meanwhile, this is supposed to be a couples only party.  In total 9 couples showed up.  Only one couple we spoke to on KIK actually showed and not surprisingly they were the only couple who had an SLS account with certifications.  About mid-way through the couples arriving a single guy showed up.  So now there are two single guys at the party, the host and this new addition.  The group as a whole was not desirable.  We were focusing in on the couple we were chatting with on SLS as the only option there when the last couple to arrive came in.  They were both young and attractive and after a brief introduction to the host and the group sat away from the group.  We decided to approach them to get to know them and the host, seemingly unaware of the concept of cockblocking, decided to try to get in on the conversation.  After he wandered off we began to vibe pretty good with the couple.  However, the obvious concern was playing.  They weren't interested in anyone else there and in that environment if two attractive couples go to play when everyone else hasn't started, they will all begin to watch and some will try to join in, which can be very uncomfortable.  And sure enough, a female half of one of the couples came over to us and suggested we all go into the other room and have sex so they can watch.  Like we are some kind of performers for them.  That was enough for the couple decide their time there was over.  My girlfriend and the girl exchanged numbers and off they went. During that time it didn't appear that anyone played and at least one couple snuck out of the party by going into the adjoining hotel room, which would have been the play room, and then heading out that room's door. No one even knew they left for a good while. We stayed a little longer, chatting with the couple we were originally interested in, but the mood of the party was just not sexual at that point and we decided to call it a night. We left around 12:30 a.m.

This party is definitely a pass.  The host just does not know what he is doing, doesn't really understand how successful parties are thrown, and the dishonesty over being a single guy is just a big no no.  If he reads this, which is likely to occur at some point, my recommendation to him would be the following:

- Recruit only off of SLS & Swingers Date Club (SDC).
- Only accept couples that have at least one certification/validation within the last year.
- Drop the voice verify.
- Exchange the guest list.  It will increase the likelihood of couples showing up.
- Do not change hotels the day before.
- Do not put yourself off as a couple when you are a single.
- Sneakers, cologne, and perfume are fine.
- A person's race or ethnicity is irrelevant, stop discussing it, it makes you look like a creep.

SLS Group Party Review: Real Sex in CT

On Saturday, July 7, 2018, we attended a house party in Wallingford, CT run by the group on Swing Life Style (SLS) called "Real Sex in CT."  We found the party by posting in the hot date section of SLS asking if anyone was attending or hosting a house/apartment/hotel party.  A single guy messaged us with the information.  The description reads:

This house party on Saturday July 7th is from 9 PM till 1 AM with no admittance after 10:30 PM. No one will be allowed in unless you receive a confirmation. Upscale neighborhood and spacious 3 level home. Check out our Certs from past attendees if you haven't joined us before. These are great parties and with no pressure.....just fun! Please read carefully before you sign up for this one: The party is height and weight proportionate. Anyone signing up that doesn't fit into this category will not be confirmed. Our parties have a higher ratio of men to women and all attendees are properly screened. The March party had a long waiting list so be sure to sign up early. It's not fair to others if you are a no show. Sexy attire for women is encouraged and smart casual or classy for males. Bring your own alcohol. We supply mixers, water and snacks. The location along with additional details will be provided 7-10 days in advance. Hope to see you soon!

The final count on the guest list on SLS was 73 accounts that indicated they were going.

We used our regular strategy when attending house parties and messaged every couple and single guy that we thought we may be interested in.  The messages were mere introductions letting them know we saw them on the guest list and that our photos were open.  Almost all of the guests we messaged responded opening their photos and letting us know if they were definitely attending or not.  We spoke further with some of the couples we had a higher interest in than others.

After signing up on the guest list via SLS the hosts sent us a message and asked us to shift the communication to e-mail.  Below is a copy of the e-mail minus the location details:

This house party is on and coming up fast! Saturday July 7th from 9 PM till 1 AM. Doors open at 9 with no admittance after 10:30 PM so we can have fun too. Please don’t be late or you’ll miss out. These are great parties and with no pressure……just fun! BYOB but we provide the water, mixers and tasty snacks. The door donation for couples to help with our expenses is $40. Party starts downstairs where the bar and pool table are. 2 more floors to roam and feel comfortable in any time you like. 3rd floor rooms are all open door so please do not close. Plenty of on street parking in a safe, beautiful neighborhood. Please don’t park on the lawn. Large blue/grey colonial and [redacted] 2 hotels are right off the exit if you need that information. Please let us know if you can’t make it even though we will surely be disappointed. Feel free to contact us if you have any unanswered questions. Thanks and see you soon!!

We asked them about the early 1 a.m. end time.  Their response was that it definitely does end at that time as they need to spend the entire next day cleaning up the house.

We were coming from Long Island and the drive was 2 1/2 hours.  We looked at nearby hotels and the rates appeared to be around $160 a night for most of the hotels with one hotel being around $80 for the night.  We decided to skip the hotel and arrived almost at  9 p.m. on the dot.  Pretty much everyone that was coming seemed to have arrived in the admittance window.  I believe every couple we spoke with on SLS came to the party.  The age range of the couples was somewhere between 35-55.  There were at least two single girls in attendance.  The single men all appeared to be under 40 and almost every one of them was respectful.

The hosts put out hot food, junk food, soda mixers, and water.  One thing we did notice was that it appeared a lot of people did not bring any alcohol and someone or more than one person was drinking the liquor brought by others.  One couple we were talking to made himself and his wife a drink and then when he went to pour himself a second the entire bottle was empty.

We spent the first hour and a half talking to as many couples as possible, introducing ourselves to them as they came into the basement.  We connected with a couple in particular that we were interested in playing with but they did not feel comfortable staying and playing as there were a lot of people in attendance.  They were a bit on the new side so it is completely understandable. We exchanged numbers and promised to meet up at a later date.  We then introduced ourselves to an attractive single female (brunette, thin, mid-thirties) who had a hall pass from her husband.  It was her first time attending and we really hit it off.  It was at this moment I regretted not having gotten a hotel room nearby.  Surprisingly she was okay going upstairs and just as we were heading upstairs one of the bedrooms freed up.  We proceeded to have a threesome and not one single couple or single guy tried to come onto the bed and only one single guy asked if he could have permission to join which my girlfriend politely declined.  We had a very large audience watching and at some point a single male came in and was loudly asking why all the guys were just standing there watching and not joining in.  He clearly did not get it.  One of the single males told him that we were playing alone and the loud single guy left in a huff.  Overall I think this speaks highly of the quality of single men that were invited to the party.  Normally in environments geared towards playing with single guys they are unacceptably aggressive.  Even all the guys that introduced themselves to us throughout the night were quality guys who we would have taken an interest in if we didn't find ourselves connecting with a couple or single girl.

When we finished playing, cleaned up, and headed back to the main floor to call it a night it was only around 12:15 a.m.  So in the end the 1 a.m. end time wasn't a factor.  We would definitely go to another one of this group's parties.  If you are strictly into couples you can definitely find a connection at this party and if you are on the hunt for single men this is an ideal party to attend.

What We've Been Up To - 2018

We have been pretty busy so far this year attending parties, whether they be hotel takeovers, hotel parties, house parties, or clubs.  However, we decided moving forward that every experience doesn't require a post.  We are only going to write about parties run by established groups or clubs and not review one off house or hotel parties we go to that may be hosted by a couple that throws them once in a blue moon.  We plan on attending a couple of more ShareNation hotel takeovers this year and we visited Pleasure Garden in Philadelphia a couple of weeks back that deserves a post.  We know we are attending one house party and two hotels parties this month (July 2018) and one hotel party next month to give you an idea of how active we've been.  Just this past weekend we attended a house party and a hotel party followed by the Manor Boody Party a few days ago which we recently posted about.  

The Manor 2018

We were looking for a party to go to for July 3rd and saw a Boody Party listed on SLS.  Here is the ad:

OODY Shorts Party
A Club Manor At Large Party
July 03rd. 2018

Yes our BOODY Shorts Party is back. NO WORK WEDNESDAY, Independence Day so come enjoy a night out meet your old friends and make new ones.
This Event held in A Night Club in Nassau County.
(Location Info Text xxx-xxx-xxxx day before the party)
Plenty of parking.

We haven't really been paying much attention to the Manor since they closed their doors.  They have posted parties since they officially closed but we never realized that they just changed their name and host their parties at the same exact location in Bethpage.  It seems it is now primarily a non-swinger venue.  The location is now called The Living Room.

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They've even created a fancy smancy video for the interior so you guys can see the setup is pretty much the same as back in the day.

The setup was pretty much exactly how it was before they closed.  It is still an older crowd but we met an attractive couple there that we had good chemistry with.  Entry was only $15 dollars if the girl wore booty shorts and $25 if not so it was worth checking out on a night where nothing else was happening.  If you lean older then it is still worth going to the Manor.  For younger couples (21-40) it will be hit or miss.  Best plan would be to use one of their parties to meet another couple there so you will increase your odds of a connection.