The Mayor's Dix Hills Party - 2015 Review

Every year I say we are done with the Mayor's parties, but a weekend always comes a long where there is nothing else going on, so we go.  This party took place on May 23, 2015.  This is a house party which also allows pre-screened single men to attend.  We've decided that since we were now re-exploring that aspect of the lifestyle that even if we didn't meet an attractive couple there, we should be able to meet a quality single guy at the party.  We took an Uber there as we won't drink and drive.  Admission for couples is $50.00 and single men $70.00.  As described in previous reviews, the Mayor has a nice size home with four bedrooms to play in on the main level and additional play space in the basement.  There is a beautiful back yard with a large heated in ground pool and a hot tub.  There is a spread of hot and cold food and it is bring your own booze.  The party begins at 10 p.m. and concludes at approximately 3 a.m. 
The couple that hosts the parties does not like their information being shared.  The easiest way to find them is to simply go on Swing Lifestyle (SLS) and you will see their events listed in the hot date/events section when they have them.  They also have a website at:
We arrived at 10 p.m. and there were several couples already there.  I saw an attractive brunette in the living room when we first walked in.  She was thin, tall, nice sized breasts, mid-forties.  For the remainder of this post we will call her Alison.  We began speaking with Alison and the group she was socializing with.  Her husband, who we will call John, was a very nice guy, but my girlfriend was not attracted to him in any way.  I figured that we would just continue speaking with them until an attractive couple walked in the door where there was attraction to both the male and female and we would eject from Alison and John.  Then John said something that was music to my ears, that at parties, they don't feel the need to play in the same room, that they go and do their own thing.  We chatted with them and others for maybe about an hour and a half.  A single male, mid thirties, Hispanic, well dressed, approached my girlfriend and began flirting with her during this time, so she paired off with him and began dancing with him on the dance floor.  I went into the kitchen with Alison and did a few shots and then she asked me to take her to one of the bedrooms.  We played just the two of us for about thirty or so minutes.  The usual routine, she went down on me, I went down on her, then we had sex, missionary, to girl on top, to missionary again and then I came.  I really enjoyed playing with her.  Aside from my girlfriend, she was the most attractive woman at the party and she was really sweet and fun. 
We then headed back out to the living room for drinks to rehydrate.  My girlfriend was really into the single guy she paired off with, who we will call David.  She wanted to play with him while I watched, so we took him to one of the bedrooms.  It was really a great experience watching them play.  He was very well endowed and must have been equipped with a supersized energizer battery, because the stamina on this guy was insane.  He fucked my girlfriend every which way and she was simply on cloud nine.  At some point they needed a little break so we went back out to the living room and had drinks and some sandwiches and talked.  Then we headed back to one of the bedrooms and had a threesome, both alternating between receiving oral and fucking my girlfriend.   I have to say that this was probably the best experience we've had with a single guy.  He was respectful, charming, understood what we were looking for, and really made the night for us.  He even asked me permission if he could play with her before we even went to the bedroom.  Which of course is in stark contrast to another guy who was waiting outside the bedroom door and asked me when I stepped out to use the bathroom if he could get a turn next.  I'm sorry, but she isn't a ride at an amusement park where you get a turn.
While overall we had a great time, I must admit that no other attractive couples came into the party aside from one, which for some reason the male half just doesn't like us.  Never understood why.  But, they are a young and very attractive couple.  Aside from that, the crowd was generally much older, forty to sixty, as opposed to our usual parties which cater to the twenty to forty crowd.  There was also a disproportionate amount of larger women (BBW) that were in attendance.  We have always found his parties hit or miss if you fall into the younger attractive couple category, but we have had success in the past at the parties so I suppose we will keep attending.

The Importance of Certifications, Validations, and Testimonials

On each site they are called something different, but their purpose is the same. It allows one member to give a public review of another member that they have met.
For the remainder of this articles I will just use the term certifications.
We use certifications as a screening tool. We would prefer others to have met you and played with you and then taken the affirmative step to give you a certification telling all of the online service you are using how wonderful you are. The more of these certifications you have, the more at ease we are with meeting you because you’ve somehow convinced a large group of people that you are not an undesirable.
If someone tells us that they do not give or accept certifications, we look at it as a red flag. It may be a true statement, but we would rather pass on that person or couple. Typically people who say such things are either a fake profile or they want to be discreet. This is not a vanilla social media site we are connecting in. Everyone is on here for same or similar reasons. We don’t use full names and most of the time people block out face photos on the public albums. This isn’t a site where if you post a certification for someone your co-workers or family get a notification on the top of their screen. And certifications can be as simple as, “We met so and so and they were really cool and down to earth.” There is no need to describe every sexual act you may or may not have done.
The lack of certifications can also be an indication of a fake profile (a catfish, a married man, etc.). If the profile is more than a year old and there is no certifications then there is a very high likelihood that the profile is fake. If you are active in the lifestyle for a year, you should have met other couples or singles that could provide you with a certification during that time. This is also true if there is one certification attached and the profile that certified them also only has one certification.
No certifications on a particular site is not necessarily a red flag if the single or couple is on other sites as well. When someone messages us with no certifications, if there is initial attraction from their photos we may ask if they are on other sites. Personally we have the same screen name on several lifestyle sites. For instance, on Adult Friend Finder we have 1 testimonial, but on Swing Lifestyle (SLS) we have 76 certifications, Swingers Date Club (SDC) we have 9 validations, and on Sexxy Mofo we have 12.
We are frequently told by couples and singles that they have had a good number of experiences off of the site they are on. If you have no certifications and you tell us that, it is a red flag. If you had a good experience with someone, why did they not certify you? If you had multiple experiences with different couples or singles, how is it possible that not a one gave you a certification?
Certifications are extremely important. If you meet a single or couple you enjoyed spending time with you only befit them by giving them a certification and you only help yourself in asking for one, especially if you have none. Certifications make you stand out from the countless profiles that simply have none.

Instructions for Single Men

These are instructions on specifically how to go about meeting us.  This does not apply to all couples, but reading the below instructions and following them will likely benefit you with interactions with many couples involved in  the swinger, hotwife, cuckold, and polyamorous lifestyles.
(1)    Read Our Profile.
(2)    Send a message, NOT an instant message.
(3)    In that first message include g-rated photos that include your face sans glasses or hats.
(4)    During your first message, DO NOT:
a.       Discuss sexual activities.
b.      Ask to play.
c.       Ask to meet us for drinks.
(5)    Expect to exchange several messages and then ask for her KIK information and then continue the interaction using KIK.
(6)    You should be pursing the interactions.  We are extremely busy and are easily distracted by attractive couples, single females, and the party scene.  Not to mention we receive a significant amount of messages across several different lifestyle sites.  It is easy for people to fall through the cracks, so if you don’t wish to fall through the cracks, keep the conversation going with us.
(7)    Expect that you will be speaking with us for a period of time prior to any possibility of meeting.  Why?  It is not because we are looking for a new best friend or to form a polyamorous triad/triangle.  Rather it is because single men, while they like to think of themselves as part of the lifestyle, typically have no idea what the lifestyle is really about.  Understand that single men are a dime a dozen.  Not only that, really attractive single men are a dime a dozen.  Based upon the laws of supply and demand, we can take our time and choose our sexual partners wisely and not settle for mediocrity.  We want to avoid drama, stalkers, creeps, and asshole.  We want to make sure that you are a sane, grounded guy that we can have fun with and who will understand the limitations of our interactions.  We also want to make sure we are not going to waste a perfectly good Friday or Saturday night on you.  There are only so many of them a year and as a group single men have a surprisingly high flake rate, which does not even take into account the possibility of not having chemistry in person.  To do that we need to converse for a period of time to make sure that there are no red flags.
(8)    If you want to raise your chances of meeting us then invite us to a party.  This party can be a lifestyle party, a poly play party, or even a vanilla party (we promise we won’t embarrass you).  We just love parties.  If it is a lifestyle party however, please note that if it is a gangbang party or one that overwhelmingly caters to single men, it is not our scene.

Club Review: Colette in New Orleans, LA

My girlfriend and I visited New Orleans last week for the French Quarter Festival which ran from April 7th to the 10th.  During the visit we decided to look up couples on the various lifestyle sites as well as the clubs in the area.  The club we settled on was Colette. We found this to be a wonderful club.  We went on both Friday and Saturday night.  Unlike many clubs they put the pricing right on their website.  Both nights for couples are $60 plus a one night membership fee per visit of $20 for a total of $80.  They have longer membership fees, but for our purposes just visiting we did the nightly memberships.  Friday nights allow single men at $100 plus the $20 membership fee.  Saturday nights are couples only.  The club is open from 9 p.m. to 4 a.m. at 822 Gravier Street, New Orleans, LA 70112.  This is very conveniently located blocks from the French Quarter.  This is a byob (bring your own booze) venue, so you bring a bottle of liquor in, the bartender writes your name on it, and then will make whatever drink you like with it as the mixers are on them.
Club Setup
There is a door man outside the door on Gravier Street.  Upon walking in there is a check in table to the right.  You have to show a drivers license for each person attending the club and sign a membership form.  They take payment using credit cards as well as cash.  You then walk into a very large open room that consists of seating areas, a large oval bar, a dance floor, and a stage with a stripper pole.  Upstairs there are private rooms with doors, there is a large open library room, a theater room playing porn, semi-private rooms where there are curtains, a voyeur room with a large round bed that people can see in and watch the action but the people engaging in the action cannot see out of and an "orgy" room where many different people can play on a very large mattress.  There are men and women rooms on both floors.  There is also an elevator, however it was not in service when we visited.
Quality of Attendees
With both nights there were a good number of those in attendance with the age range from the early twenties to over fifty.  We more or less ignore the older couples and focus on those most visually appealing to us.  Friday night was not nearly as crowded as Saturday night.  The single men on Friday night were very respectful unlike the crowds typically found at the New York venues.   We had messaged with several couples on Swing Life Style (SLS), Swingers Date Club (SDC), Kasidie, and Love Voodoo during the week to try to arrange plans to meet up.  For Friday night we met at couple from SLS.  He was in his late thirties and she was twenty four.  She is an attractive brunette who runs a dance studio for a living and is in excellent shape.  We hit it off right away with them and after about an hour of great conversation we took it to one of the semi-private rooms and had a wonderful full swap experience.  We didn't leave the club until a little before 4 a.m.  On Saturday night we met up with several different couples from SLS and Kasidie.  The funny part was they all knew each other.  They were all there to celebrate the birthday of someone.  We chatted with all of them a bit and were definitely interested in one of the couples but in our periphery we kept seeing this really young attractive couple and decided to cold approach them.  Both of them are twenty four and she was just gorgeous.  Tall, thin, dirty blonde hair, and an adorable southern accent.  They had never done a full swap before and it took them awhile and asking them several times if they wanted to go upstairs to play before they did.  Once upstairs we switched off almost immediately.  I went down on her until she came and then had sex with her until I came.  My girlfriend came from the guy giving her oral.  After I came I asked blondie if she could come again from oral and when she said yes I went back down on her.  However, her boyfriend was having performance issues of some sort and started asking the her if she was okay.  She kept saying she was, but he started to look really uncomfortable.  I asked them if he would like us to stop playing and leave the room and he said yes.  So we headed back downstairs.  While downstairs he came over, apologized for ending play early, even though he was the only one that didn't cum, and blamed the stoppage on his girlfriend having too much to drink.  It is always hard playing with newbie couples.  You never know what kind of issues or challenges may come up.  While they were really a wonderful couple and fun to be with, I feel that maybe they went into full swap a little too soon.
So overall, quality was very good.  I did after all sleep with two beautiful twenty four year olds ;-)
Overall Impression
Colette was one of the best lifestyle clubs we've been to.  Every time we leave New York and visit a new club we are amazed at how the clubs in New York just don't compare.  We definitely recommend checking it out if you visit New Orleans/the French Quarter.

Video of Colette